How To Create Your Own Personal Destiny Map | Level 10 Living

Lance: One of the most powerful ahas, you’ll ever have is the realization that you can rewrite your own life script that if you write your life story. You want to make sure you do with a pencil not a pen, because you can erase certain things and you can rewrite certain things. Last week in our last episode we were focusing on the power of narrative. And the way that you tell the story to yourself and you tell the story to others kind of is a perspective. Then Carl brought up something which was I think really key. It was like there are 3 perspectives. What’s that? 

Carl: 3 sides of every story. Yes sir. There’s his side, her side, and what actually happened.

Lance: There’s his side, her side, and then there’s what actually happened. So, even in the way that you’re thinking about your life. You may be thinking about the fact that certain things weren’t working out for you and I listen man I work with this all the time with clients and with folks that I’m working with. It’s possible that you could set yourself up to be misunderstood because of a blind spot, a behavior, a certain thing that you’re doing. And I mentioned last week about how, when I was a kid I was self-conscious about walking with my feet pointed in. So, I waddled like a duck to the bus stop and all the kids were pointing how I walked. I thought they were responding to being pigeon toe and in fact they were responding to me walking like a duck walking weird and I was overcompensating.

I was in a program where I had was doing this personal development investment in my life. And I can remember the moment of truth came when the fellow who was facilitating it kind of rebuked me in a way. He rebuked me of for, what was, I mean kind of embarrassing. There was I had spent a lot of money on this program. It was like $5,000. 5,000 is a lot of money anytime in your life but I was a young married guy and I really knew this program was historic. It could really change my life. but there was a woman who was in the program with me who was talking about her marriage and her husband and they’ve been married a long time, I was like to me, it wasn’t really, you ever had that like I’m wasting my time. I want to get my money’s worth out of this.

So, she’s talking at dinner and I’m with the facilitator and when she stopped talking, all I heard was her stop talking, I kind of jumped out with a question and the question was for the guy in charge of the program and he looked at me. He said, ‘Are you aware that Doris is talking about her marriage?’ I said, ‘Oh yeah. Yeah, I’m sorry. A good guy going.’ He said, ‘No, no, no. Are you aware of the fact that she’s talking about her marriage and you just kind of like jumped in on a whole different subject?’ I said, ‘I’m sorry. Sorry. Go ahead.’ I said, ‘No, no, no, no’. He said, ‘What I’m trying to point out to you is that I think you have a tendency to do this with a lot of people. And if this is how you treat people, then it’s no wonder that people find you abrasive.’

And then he turn back to Doris and start talking to her and I can’t tell you how I had this embarrassment. This guy just said, this in front of these other people. Then I had, ‘Anger, I’m paying a lot of money for this program. He’s not very professional and I embarrassed anger, so excuse me. I got to go to the bathroom.’ I got up and I went to the bathroom and I can remember going by it was a lobster house and the lobsters are like wrapped up with their poor little claws in rubber bands and they’re like bubbling around. I’m look I’m thinking and we’re going to eat them too and I looked at this lobster about eye level and he’s looking at me. I thought, and I looked at my reflection the glass I was red. I was red with embarrassment and anger. I thought, oh my GodI’m like that little lobster in that. I’m in this stupid program and I can’t get out of it. I went in the bathroom I put water on my face I looked in the mirror and I came back out and I sat down. Then the guy is facilitating the program total disposition change.

He said, ‘So Lance, I’m interested in the question that you were asking.’ And the question was on Johari Window and self-awareness of all things I was going to ask about self-awareness in blind spots because he talked about the Johari Window. I could see a kindness in his eyes and I realized that what he did to me earlier was on purpose. It was to joke me into something. He said, ‘Lance, I wonder if you’re aware that you could be intimidating at times.’ I go, ‘What do you mean?’ He said, ‘In your personal history when we talked about your personal history, you said that you grew up with really smart brother and of dad who’s a lawyer and engineer.’ And he said,‘You were in college material and you weren’t very bright and he worried about if you’d even graduate from high school.’

He said, ‘Well, you did graduate, right? And you really gone on to like you teach.’ He said, ‘Let me tell you something. I do this program and I’m pretty secure and you intimidate me. You have a vocabulary you have a lot of, you know a lot. I think what happened is that when you grew up,you started telling yourself, you’re not smart, you’re not smart, you’re not smart. And so, you started reading and expanding your vocabulary and elect your knowledge, and you treat everything like a competition to prove you’re smart enough. I think you’re like a guy in a gym who built his upper body and you don’t know you have built your upper body and you still see yourself in the mirror as a kid getting picked on. And when you’re with other people, I think you might be unaware of the fact you’re overpowering them.’

He said, ‘I may be mistaken but how many of you here at the table would say that Lance is really smart.’ All these ladies in the program like that. It’s like, I mean, like, he’s like a genius. He’s brilliant. Oh, he intimidates me.’ See? He said, ‘Just take that all in. I think the awareness for you is you’re compensating for something you believe about yourself and you don’t know that you’re not that poor anymore.’ That’s the aha, and I told him, I said, ‘Well, to tell you the truth. I went into the bathroom there and I splashed the water in my face. I looked at myself and I was really embarrassed because I got this awareness that I need to be aware of how I’m showing up because I’m constantly trying to prove something. I’m not actually present to other people. I’m trying to impress them that I’m okay.’

So, he said, ‘Well, he said, that’s what you paid for.’ And so, it makes sense. I was getting my money’s worth but it was a very painful experience and an embarrassing one. But I was aware of that of that’s my story about how my narrative was I’m not smart. And then I tried so hard to be smart. I was overcompensating like when I was walking on the bus stop. I was trying too hard and in trying too hard I was making myself even weirder. Is that story resonate with anyone here?

Carl: Yeah. I mean I’ve been course correcting my entire life.

Lance: What was with your parents?

Carl: Yeah.

Lance: Look at the disadvantages you had growing up.

Carl: I’m blessed by the best. I don’t know what you’re talking about.

Lance: I’m going to throw two Bible stories out here to just to sanctify this for the biblical worldview. Then I’m going to throw it open and I I’m going to put Jonathan on the spot. Because Jonathan got away last week as he often does by with his eyes down diverting eye contact. I realize this is the technique of his. If he’s not looking at me, I can’t call on him. So, I used to do that when I was in school. No, eye contact teacher can call on you. So, the lesson we had was think of a story that you’re telling yourself right now that might not be serving you. It might be about a circumstance you’re experiencing I said last week or a job, a relationship, or maybe finances or something. I want you to think about who you are in the story you tell. Are you the hero or are you the victim? Are you creative in it or are you locked in? Because as a rule, any area where you show up as a victim is an area where you’ve chosen to surrender your own personal power.

Carl: Yup.

Lance: You can’t change the story if you’re a victim in the story.

Carl: Yup.

Lance: That’s not to say that every event in your life that you suffered and you created but it’s to say that no one but you has the power to reinterpret the event so that it becomes empowering. I’m on page four of this profound content called Unlocking Your Story. Now, we come into my point. “From the moment the event happened in your life till today, you have the power, alone you to give it the meaning it has. When the apostle Paul looked at his scarred and disfigured body, he could have easily created a meaning that said, look at how my fellow Jews have mistreated and abused me. My own depraved countrymen have disfigured me. Look at how much I’d suffered because of my faith more than even the others had suffered.” But he didn’t say that.

In Galatians chapter 6 verse 17, Paul looked at his disfigured, contorted body and scars and he said, “I bear in my body the marks of the Lord Jesus Christ.” He didn’t bear in his body the marks of his enemies. He born his body the marks of Jesus. He chose to reinterpret those wounds as being the tattoos so to speak that comes with the insignia that his officer put on him. Jesus marked him that way. Jesus when he was in Gethsemane, you might remember his enemies are coming. He’s been betrayed by Judas, his one of his trusted companions. His fellow Jewish brethren are coming to arrest him. And as they come with the betrayer at hand, Jesus says, when Peter goes to interrupt this and bring a sword out. He says, “Stop. Should I not drink the cup that my father has given me?”

He didn’t see this as the cup that his enemies were giving. He didn’t see it as Satan’s plan although Satan was in Judas. He saw it as the father’s chalice. When Joseph in chapter 45 of Genesis is sitting there on the throne and his brothers who betrayed him are kneeling for him. How did he choose to frame the story? Was it like now I’ve got them? Genesis chapter 45. It says, Joseph could not restrain himself before all those who stood before him and he cried out. Everyone get out. So no one stood with him while Joseph made himself known to his brothers. And he wept aloud. And the Egyptians and the house of Pharaoh heard it. As Joseph said, “I’m Joseph. Is my father still alive?”

Powerful moment because they’re looking at him like that’s what they’re thinking. They’ve got the number two most powerful guy in the country and he’s having an emotional meltdown thinking what the heck because their lives are like in the balance and it’s like what’s going on here. And then he says I’m your brother. It’s like blink–blink, what. I’m Joseph and they knew right away. Oh my God, the next thought is are we in trouble. But he wanted to know how’s dad.I haven’t seen him in like 15 years since you guys put me in Egypt. And they were dismayed at his presence but Joseph said, “Come here come near me.” And they came near and he said, I said, I’m Joseph your brother they’re still staring at him in disbelief. I’m Joseph, the one you sold to Egypt. But now don’t be grieved don’t have a meltdown over this because you were the ones that put me here. He says that. Because God sent me before you to preserve your life. Bam.

For these two years famine’s been in the lamb. There’s still five more years of famine coming. And God sent me before you to preserve your life on the earth and to save you by a great deliverance. So catch this. “It wasn’t you who sent me here. I don’t look at you like you did this. God did and I’ve learned that God is in charge of my life and promoted me.” What a powerful reframe.

Mercedes: Totally. Because he could have gone completely victim. I mean like to your point. I never really thought about this before but I mean obviously he’s sold into slavery. He ends up in Potiphar’s house, falsely accused of rape, ends up in jail. Interprets dreams for the two servants in pharaoh’s house is forgotten about, says, hey, remember me once you go give this or is forgotten about for years. And then Pharaoh has the dream about the cows coming up out of the river and then I think it’s the baker who makes it through. I think it’s the baker and he’s like, oh I know a guy, he’s in jail though and he remembers him. I mean you want to talk about you could go victim. I mean like you did this to me. I suffered. Yeah, I earned my way here. You know what I mean? Like you could write too.

Lance: Listen, you could do this at any stage of your life you could do this. I could do this right now if I wanted to.

Carl: If you were so inclined you could.

Mercedes: Let’s not.

Lance: But I’m going to tell you about a recent time I did this.

Mercedes: Oh. Should I confess it?

Carl: And welcome back to the broadcast everybody. We had to cut that last bit out.

Mercedes: You should do.

Lance: Jonathan, do you have a story?

Jonathan: Of when I reframed.

Lance: Yeah, give us a reframe, Jonathan.

Jonathan: Absolutely. So, this actually took place at the seven M Gen camp that you guys had for young adults as well as for younger people as well. And this was I want to say about four years ago kind of thankfully at the tail end of a very dark period of my own life where going to this camp that you guys really were teaching in and drilling down in this material of not focusing in on the down aspects of your life and viewing yourself such as a victim. But really in teaching that when you view yourself as a victim, you don’t have the power to change from those circumstances and things that are happening to you. Just because you’ve given away the authority to whoever is your oppressor.

So, I was kind of still in that mindset of really just as a victim of like, people have wounded me, people have hurt me, and using that as an excuse to pretty much live however I wanted to live.And made a lot of really poor decisions during a span of a couple of years, and was not really able to break out of that cycle of just darkness. Until I realized I can’t keep shifting the blame for these decisions that I’ve made in my life for the past 4, 5, 6 years on wounds that people have given me. It was my own decision like yes that sucked. Yes, that was really not good. What happened to me but I’ve made mistakes and I can’t keep blaming other people for Mistakes that I’ve made.

So, that was my own personal example of reframing my story too and then since I made that decision, my life has been totally different. I’ve gained a lot of authority. I’ve broken off a lot of stuff in my own life. It’s been almost a complete 180 turnaround since making that decision to take the authority back and stop viewing myself as a victim.

Lance: And I could testify to the fact that I’ve never had anybody in the role that Jonathan has working for me in 30 years of ministry. Where I’ve had people call me up that talk to Jonathan and tell me what an incredible administrative assistant I’ve got and how much they enjoyed working with him. I mean, it’s one thing to do your job so that people like working with you, it’s another thing to have them call you up to tell you how exceptional that person is. So, what that tells me Jonathan is that, in the way that you processed responsibility for choices and then release yourself from including the guilt for those choices. Because this is part of the great thing about like the word of faith and grace revelation like Andrew Womack has. Which is that you don’t have to live with it, because God‘s not even living with it. That gives you the freedom you free up the space to show up in a different way. And you find out if you’re not carrying the baggage neither is a victim or you’re so concept right now like, well, I mess. You could you’re free to recreate the next chapter which is why you can write the next chapter the way you want.

The point is Paul reinterpreted the scars and made them into the stars that he navigated by. They were the marks of heaven, not the marks of hell. Joseph reinterpreted the abusives that were legitimately happening to him as being God‘s in charge. The providence of God rules even over that and the lord used these circumstances to put me into the position I’m in right now and I’ve got an advantage as a result of what I’ve gone through. I’m the right place at the right time. This is pretty powerful stuff.

Carl: Yeah, I have an act of example. I hope it works. I’ve tried it once before and it did work then. But I would like to show some of the benefits of the practical effects of cognitive behavioral therapy. And that simply means having gone through your personal history and reframe some of the negatives into some of the positives. Do I have your permission to play with that?

Lance: Go with that.

Carl: Alright, cool. So, what we have here, ladies and gentlemen and it went the other way. Going this way. So, we see a sad face. Yeah, it was supposed to be a camera two. There you go.

Lance: Camera two, come back. Yeah, it is the first time.

Carl: So, what you’ll see.

Mercedes: Hide behind.

Carl: Thank you. Yeah, just hide. Hide behind the sad face. So, what we see here is permanent marker on a dry erase board. So, it doesn’t go anywhere, right. But what cognitive behavioral therapy does and by going through your own personal history and timeline and figuring out what’s worked for you in the past and what doesn’t work is. It’s like using this dry erase marker to go over the issues that we’ve had. And instead of it staying a permanent fixture on our faces or on our lives or on our psyche, what it actually does is it removes it from being permanent. So, now we have a blank slate. What we’re allowed to do then is repot some of the points in our lives that we want to see that actually will change the impact of our activities that will impact the lag measure and then boom, we’re able to recalibrate with a weird smile.

Lance: So, and that’s permanent ink.

Carl: Yeah, this stuff up top is all permanent. All that’s permanent but the dry erase, we can switch it up so that way that your smile.

Lance: Wow. Very good. Very good.

Mercedes: Magic.

Lance: It’s like magic.

Carl: Science.

Mercedes: I have things to say too.

Lance: Oh Mercedes, do you have a contribution to make to this conversation?

Mercedes: Well, I’m just processing what you’re saying. It’s interesting because you can be a victim two ways. Meaning your bad choices could have put you in a victim scenario. So like you started dating a guy who’s verbally abusive to you. You made some choices to put yourself in that situation. Versus when I’m thinking about Joseph, I mean, sold into slavery, false, did the best job in Potiphar’s house is a falsely accused of rape. So it’s like, there’s a whole other level I feel like a victim where it’s like, I could see like, alright, I made those choices and owning it. When you’re an actual victim of somebody else’s emotional vomit that they spew all over you. That’s real work to reframe that. Like what Joseph did.

I’m saying there’s like there’s almost like two levels. You’re a victim both ways but when you’re an actual you didn’t do it. Like if you’re a child and your parents are verbally abusing you or physically abusing you. I mean that is legitimate. You did nothing to put yourself in that situation other than be born into that family.

Carl: Yup.

Lance: And so how do you reframe situations like that? Because even though it still holds power over you. That’s what I’m realizing. That the victim mindset holds power over you. Like you were, let’s say you’re born into poverty. Well, you know, I was never given a handout like you were given a handout and so, you should give me all half all your stuff too. I mean, that’s actually a victim mindset. So, something you have to reframe like in true injustices. So, how does that work? Because I feel like it’s something slightly different, but I feel like you’re supposed to,based on what we’re talking about.

Carl: Well, one of the things if I could just interject with the Clemmer Business Associates, they taught the difference between victim and responsible. So, it’s not being the hero of it but it’s actually having an ability to respond to the situation. So, to your point, Mercedes, a child who’s born into an abusive home, they don’t have an ability to respond to that. However, as soon as they turn 14, 15, 16, they can emancipate. So, they do have an ability to respond to that situation. They can pull themselves out and it’s not quite the same as like growing up impoverished versus growing up rich in that type of situation. Because yeah, you can’t change your inherited situation,but you can change how you act in accordance with that inheritance. So, there’s still the opportunity for somebody to be responsible and to respond to that situation. It’s just a varying degrees for what that’s worth.

Lance: Oh, it’s amazing to me is in everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. It doesn’t say for everything, it says in everything. So, you may be in a situation for which you did not create it, but in the midst of it you can be thankful. Thankful for what? Thankful that God is with you that you’re not without options. Thank you that you still have hope.

Carl: Yeah.

Lance: Thank you that God is able to work with you in the situation to make it redemptive. I was with young lady in program once who was dealing with her father. Leaving her when she was young. Leaving her to be raised by a single mother. I remember, I mean, it may not be the perfect answer, but I remember the that the facilitator said, Well, can you be thankful? Well, thankful for what? Thankful that your parents had you and you weren’t aborted. Thankful for the gift of life that your father did give you. And if you knew the whole story, thankful that he withdrew from your life because he thought it would be unhealthy for him to be in your life, that it was more about you than you think.

The point is that it helped her refrain what she was actually thinking and we’ll be coming to the material here we only have 5 minutes left and I hate to rush through this the way we are. But in page 5 and 6 we talk about your personal destiny map which comes to you in this booklet on rewriting your story.

Carl: Unlocking Your Story.

Lance: Unlocking Your Story. And in the personal map, basically it goes to and it’s a destiny map. That’s just the hard part to process, because your future is tied into your past and so the destiny map looks a bit like this. Well, you’re on a podcast. Many of you, you can’t see this. Imagine I’ve got this rectangle here. I’ve got a dotted line going right across from left to right and it’s the middle point. There’re clouds up on the top of this and these are the high points and then there’s the ground below. It’s the low points, and what we ask you to do is to figure out a period of time in your life where you’re going to process your experience. And basically, I would go with starting with your time you were born. We’ll, do a quick journey with Joseph here.

So, Joseph’s born. He is the highlight is his father’s favorite son and he’s given a coat of many colors and it blesses him because he realizes he’s favored. And not that, he has his brothers had some envy but then Joseph has a dream and God chose him he’s going to be exalted above his father and his brothers and everybody else. And his brothers decided to put him into a pit and they sell him into Egypt. And in Egypt, the poor kid is within a foreign country abandoned by his family. They lied to his father, said he was dead. But he ends up promoted to being in charge of the farm and the estate of the landowners his name is Potiphar. Whose wife tries to seduce him and when he resists, she’s embarrassed by the sight of her what she’s doing to try to seduce him when a servant shows up.

So, she lies and says, this young Jewish Hebrew kid tried to rape me, and so he’s put in prison for rape. This is a pattern in his life now of trying to serve and being liked and then suffering because of that. But while he’s in prison, he takes over the prison. He becomes a great servant there and he has a special quarters given him as he administrates the prison and he interprets a dream of a butler and a baker. As I recall, let’s see the baker dies but the butler is preserved alive.And he says, I’ll remember you when I get out of jail but he forgets about it for two years and pharaoh has a dream and Joseph is summoned from prison to interpret it. And now he is the high point of his life. He’s in the prime ministry.

You see these highs and these lows. The low points are the points in which despair and darkness can talk to you. The high points are the points in which things are coming together, and our research are premises. The high points are a revelation of convergence. Those are the moments when your gifts and your talents and your skills are integrating together on exhibition in some way that gives you a clue and a premonition of what you do well. These are indicators in our Level 10 model of where your face is in the future. Your face is somehow going to be a Level 10 use of those skills and talents. But also those low points, those low points. Well, they reveal something. They reveal where the attacks are but they also reveal something of where your passion will come from because your passion comes out of your pain.

Your pleasure plots a path for what fulfills you but your real pathos comes from the battles you’ve had that you’ve overcome. They even make the victories more valuable and over the years when I’ve taught this, it’s impossible to not see that when you’ve gone through the vicissitudes of life and you’ve learned to sanctify them to God‘s purposes, they produce a crown. And what you would see here that you can’t see in the podcast is the highs and the lows integrate to form what we call the crown of life. Which is when you’ve accomplished enough cycles of this process where you become a better person with integrated skills and a unique competency where Godcan use you.

I see that in Jordan Peterson. I mean the man, he just radiates a kind of saintly actualization almost from everything he’s gone through providing such power and perspective. This process of taking your peaks and your valleys is remarkably instructive in explaining to you the story that you tell. Especially when you consider that the low points which we’ll have to get into in a future broadcast is where the devil shows up to cause you to experience what we call the oogle-booglesof life or the ungodly beliefs. That’s the danger. The low points can actually make you think men can’t be trusted. I don’t want to work for someone else every time I work for someone else to just take advantage of you. I’m going to be self-employed. All those beliefs can be contaminated toxic beliefs because the devil will show up in the low points and slip you the arsenic. That’s part of what God‘s got to bring out. We got some thoughts here. Mercedes first.

Mercedes: So, I was thinking just my own life too. I feel like these start to embedded really young ages as well. I don’t think this is, I think often times like after thirteen you’ve got a good set of oogle–boogles already going the ungodly beliefs. So I was going to throw example out for me. I was not a good speller. I was not a good reader at all and so I had like massive anxiety.Like when you’re in like 5th grade and you do the like the Round Robin reading. Everybody reads a I had so much anxiety. I would count how many kids in front of me. I would count the paragraphs. Read my paragraph and practice it. So, that by the time it got to me, I was ready to go and so that’s one example.

Another time is just like just I was not a good speller anytime we had like a spelling bee. I would purposely misspell stuff. I’d be like cat. I’m like KIT. I’m out of here. You know and I’d go sit down and disqualify myself because I had a huge anxiety about being in front of people and when it came like reading and speaking out loud. So, then I had this one time. So this went all the way through high school, okay. And so, I’m in high school and I have to do a presentation and it’s in like tech club or something like that because I was a total nerd. All guys, I’m the only girl in class and I’m doing my presentation and I’m like talking a mile a minute. I’m so nervous and in the back of the room, this guy writes a sign and like holds it up over his head and he’s like,slow down. And I was so embarrassed. I was so super embarrassed.

Lance: Well, hold that sign up again. I don’t know why the camera keeps going with you guys in the wrong direction. That’s what you want to focus on. Slow down. Thank you.

Mercedes: It was so embarrassing and so I’m telling the stories. Because I want to illustrate at a young age this stuff starts to embed. And then two, multiple scenarios, but let me tell you how it starts to turn around. So, randomly because I had a massive fear of like being in front of people and I’m going to tie it into like, hey, look at what I’m doing now type of a thing. Because there’s a war against your destiny and it starts at a young age. But where it started to turn around is like you have to start getting wins in areas where you’re feeling insecure.

So, this is a crazy example, but so I’m at a hockey game we had like a local hockey game and I’m with my brother and I’m young, right. I must be like you know 15, 16 and they come out and they’re like, ‘Hey, do you want to go hula hoop on ice and they’re going to do a hula hoop contest. Do you guys want to come down?’ I was like okay you know I was like alright. So, I decided to go down on the ice and hula hoop in front of like 2000 people and it’s a whole contest.So, I go down there I’m hula hooping and I tell you what? Like I had from then on, I had this mantra in my head that said, ‘Mercedes, if you can hula hoop in front of 2000 people, you can get up and talk in front of this class. If you hula hooped in front of 2000 people, you can get up and do that.’

I know it sounds so silly but I began to rewrite whatever that script was in my young mind. And like I said tied into what I’m doing now. I’m like I love doing this now. But Satan almost knows sometimes it’s like you’re created to do certain things. And I swear I don’t know how this stuff happens. But it’s like it will target. It’s like if your voice matters he’ll make you question speaking in front of people. If your brain matters and you’re going to be the guy that’s going to analyze future events and cultural happenings and synthesize it with Bible, he’s going to try to convince you you’re stupid and ignorant and don’t know what you’re talking about. He’s going to make you question whether you’re respected at all.

I don’t know how that happens but it does and that’s why this material is so powerful. Because people carry these unconscious beliefs and I have other stuff. I have more ooglu–boogles that God‘s helped me deal with over the years. I’m not going to do now but that’s just one of them I wanted to highlight.

Carl: One thing I want to add after that, it’s a great story and you can do anything after hula hooping in front of 2000 people.

Mercedes: Thank you. That’s what I think too.

Carl: Yeah. No, that person the pudding. Um but it’s absolutely highly possible to receive oogle–boogles or ungodly beliefs from high points in your life as well. If you are necessarily anindependent person for instance and you happen to complete a group project by yourself and that’s a high point for you. Then you might have that reinforced idea that you don’t need other people. You don’t need a group of people around you. You don’t need a team. You can do it yourself and that’s an ungodly belief. So, it’s not just on the low points that we end up getting snuck in these lies and deceit. It’s also on the high ends too.

Lance: That’s a great point and I might add that, I’ll bet you could go to those low points and say maybe in the low point where you come closer to the truth where you know those high points,where you know you win something. But in the low point, you find out that you don’t need to do that. That you discover that you can function without having to play the game that gets the recognition and wins the award. And then that low point you actually discover something about yourself that makes you more stronger than you’ve ever been.

Carl: Yeah, you’re non negotiables for sure.

Lance: Yeah, you’re non negotiables what you live for what you’re not willing to live without. And it could be a great loss at a low point but you come out with clarity that causes you to go to the next peak and you’re aiming for a different goal. It’s like the movie Gladiator where Russell Crowe plays Maximus and his original motive is vengeance to kill communist, the emperor.Because he killed his wife and son. But as he’s in the process of pursuing vengeance, he realizes that he’s playing perhaps a more important role and that is killing communist so that the empire for Rome to be restored back to sanity. That it’s not about the personal vengeance, it’s about restoring Rome to the people.

So, he’s going to die, but his death is somehow made more noble. Because the motive he’s fulfilling isn’t personal. It’s for the sake of others. And it’s a great story there. It’s what the act maybe the same, but the motive is where you derive the virtue where in a sense the hero is in the reason they’re doing what they do. So, Unlocking Your Story is, what were you saying?

Carl: Good stuff.

Lance: Yeah, Unlocking Your Story is about unlocking the hero’s journey in a way on the inside of you. And the nice thing is, you have no idea how deceived you are right now. Because the story you’ve been telling has been serving you your whole life, but it may not be the truth. The moment that you start saying, well, how am I responsible for those setbacks? How am I responsible for how I’ve reacted since then? Even if you were legitimately victimized by someone, how have you been rehearsing the story and how has it shaped your life. Today could be the most liberating day of your life because you take the eraser out. And say, I’m going to rewrite the next chapter and move towards the Things I want and not be afraid of what I have to do and not afraid that I’m going to be betrayed or hurt or used or abused. Because maybe I’m in control of what happens more than I think.

So, we’re going to be seeing you again in our next episode and we’re going to be flying into OBoy. You guys are going to love this. What’s the next chapter? You guys know what the next part of this is?

Carl: I can find out real fast.

Lance: This is where we literally go into the 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. We go into those phases and stages that lead to ultimate destiny convergence. The process, what you’ve gone through there actually folds in your life into four or five phases that are leading you to the moment you’re now. If you’re 50 years old or older, wait till you see what happens because you’re at the moment of convergence.

Mercedes: And if you want to get a hold of it, you and track along with us because not only is there the booklet that Lance is holding up that you could follow along with us each week. It comes with a bunch of DVDs. If you’re an online person like me here’s just here, let me hold this up.

Lance: A bunch of DVDs, hardly the most…

Mercedes: Well, some people, listen, some people still use DVDs. We get request for them. But if you’re digital like me, you can also get that. But you can get a hold of it at “level10living.com”and this curriculum is going to be Unlocking Your Story and use the promo code Podcast to get 20% off or just we’re kicking this off for what on page 4 I think right now

Carl: Yup.

Mercedes: So, there’s so much more to cover. Join us on the journey. It’s going to be a lot of fun. “Level10living.com”.

Lance: Love it.

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